Lotions, Potions and Emotions

 


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Isn’t it funny how life pans out and you come full circle to know something that you have always known, just in a different way? What am I on about, you might ask? Let me explain. Aged 16, making my “A” level choices, I recall a conversation with my careers teacher: “I want to be a beautician” I proudly claimed to which he replied: “Sharon, girls who go to the Academy do not become beauticians!”. I knew he had missed the point (clearly, as it is now a multi billion pound industry) but I couldn’t explain what I meant so I went off on a different path. Fast forward almost 40years & I have figured it out! I wanted to run a beauty business with a difference – inner and outer beauty. At InShineOut we focus on the inside helping people feel happy, confident, fulfilled, thriving from the inside out. We believe happiness is an inside job! And now I’ve found the outside piece! I have become an independent ambassador for Tropic skincare, one of the U.K’s fastest growing natural skincare companies. What we put on our skin matters. The products are pure, honest and effective, good your skin and the environment.

Why do I believe you need both? The highs and lows of my life have taught me this. At the lowest points in my life (and there have been a few) I would do my best to get made up, dress up and show up. I would take time to care for myself on the outside with skincare, make up and how I dressed. I thought at least if I tried to take care of myself on the outside, I’d feel better on the inside.

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To an extent this works and that’s how I came across Tropic. I started using the products as a customer when I was diagnosed with cancer. It gave me something to focus on during treatment when everything else felt like it was out on my control. I desperately did not want to look like that cancer patient that everyone would stare at. The products were so natural and improved my skin so much.They felt and smelt great, reminding me of the Tropics and sandy white beaches! But I also know that if you do not go inwards and get to know yourself, who you are, what and who matters to you, what makes you happy and above all how to be happy in your own skin, then no amount of skincare or makeup, natural or not, will give you that feeling. You need to pay attention to your emotions and triggers and deal with “the good, the bad and the ugly” And you should not wait for a crisis to get to know yourself. It is important to go inward and pay attention to how you feel, our emotions are messages about what we need. They are such powerful things and can raise you up or tear you down at any moment. According to Brene Brown “we cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions we also numb the positive emotions” So many people appear to have it all but are very unhappy inside. Others appear to have very little but are extremely happy. I have a passion and it is life. I want to help people figure out how to live their one and only life in a way that counts for them, shining on the inside and out. To do this you have to examine your thinking and your thoughts, your choices, conscious and unconscious, understand and manage your emotions. You must figure out what makes your heart sing. We all have a desire to belong, feel valued, love and be loved.

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I believe this starts with the relationship with yourself. “You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for you worthiness” Another Brene Brown quote. Self-care is the route to feeling whole, healthy, happy and the best you. It is your right and responsibility to take care of your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. It’s a priority not a luxury and starts with you. I help you step out of the busyness of your life, to look beyond the “to do list” and connect to your inner self, not just sometimes but as a way of being. Life throws curve balls so it is not a guarantee that life will be easier, but I guarantee it will be worth it and maybe even enjoyable! You need to get out of the trap of being “busy”. It’s an avoidance strategy, wasting your valuable time or at worst just being lazy.  But most of all it stops you feeling like you are living. I’m looking forward to sharing more of our inner and outer beauty lessons to help you thrive no matter what your circumstances -spa sessions for the body, mind and soul to help you be the best you for yourself and others. “In a society that tells us to put yourself last self love and self acceptance is almost revolutionary”

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The moon and the stars

aimforthemoonFrom time to time, I find myself thinking about starting a blog to share thoughts on the greatest teacher ever, life, and how to use these life lessons to guide us and propel us to even greater things. But then a little voice in my head (I’m sure you all know the one I mean) asks “who would want to listen to you?”. This makes me decide to keep quiet and not bother. I’ve decided to silence that voice so this week I am writing my first blog! Someone might listen and at least I won’t be playing safe and staying silent. Bear with me as I step out of my comfort zone, right now another of those voices has piped up, telling me that whatever I write will be rubbish!

Why now and what prompted me to do it? This week, children in Northern Ireland having been receiving the results of their transfer test ( like the 11+ test) which has a massive impact on the next phase of their lives. I found myself moved on 2 counts. Firstly impressed by a local school who chose to help the kids prepare for 1 of life’s lessons bbc

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Sometimes things don’t turn out as you hoped and you get disappointed but you got to stay in the game and know this does not make you a lesser person. Use it to learn and grow. As hard as it may seem, one day this major event will not be as important as you will have grown and blossomed through so many other life lessons – your first heartbreak, getting your first job, moving away from home and the list goes on. So feel disappointed if it doesn’t work out but know that you are not a disappointment, fail at things but know that you are not a failure. You are enough and will continue to be enough as you journey your way through life.

The second lesson is having been disappointed, do you take the “easy” option so that you don’t get disappointed again. There are some kids who are not sure if their score is quite enough for their first choice school, it might be. So they have to decide –  do I go for it or do I put down my second choice to avoid another disappointment? My life lessons have taught me nothing hurts more, in the long run, than not having gone for things in life. Going for it and it not working out, at least you grow and learn so much along the way. So “always shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”. Don’t stay safe just to avoid disappointment or rejection, instead learn how to bounce back,  dress yourself down and get back in the game. Eventually one day you will reach the moon.

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So where are you staying safe & aiming low when you really want to aim for the moon? Shoot.